Module 6
Your Passion (Who You Are)

YOUR PASSION

What do you want to life to mean to you? How do you want to experience yourself?

Your passion is what drives your purpose. Just like your purpose, your passion is a choice you make based on how you want to experience your life. It comes from the way you decide to share your value, your limitless value.

A lot of people think there is something they should inherently be passionate about or that passion comes from outside of them and they have to search for what creates passion for them. None of that is true. Your passion is a choice – you get to decide what you WANT to be passionate about. Once you make that decision in your brain and bones, it will drive you to follow your chosen purpose.

Your passion is the internal wellspring that creates the river of purpose.

HOW TO vs. HAVING DONE

I want to introduce you to a concept I call “How To vs. Having Done”.

Most of the time, people focus on the external process for completing a task. They focus on the plan and put all their faith in the perfect execution of a protocol, according to instructions or blueprints. After all, if everyone has the same ability and capability, then if one person followed these plans and got a specific result, then everyone should be able to follow the same plan and get the same results, no?

This is the fallacy of ‘How To’. Unfortunately, you can take the exact same actions as someone else and get very different results. Just think about it. There have been millions of books written by people who have created millions of dollars. You could read any one of these books and follow the steps described in them and still not create that money (or create that business or whatever). The map that someone else uses is only specific to their own island of life. If you try to use someone else’s map on your island, you will end up with a different result (remember the time as distance analogy).

The problem with trusting in the ‘how to’ is that when it doesn’t work for you the way it worked for someone else, you don’t find fault in the plan – you find fault in yourself. Then the blame game begins and all the, “There must be something wrong with me”, thoughts. When you trust in the ‘how to’ instead of trusting in yourself, the failure always ends up resting on yourself. This is an illusion that drives people to quit.

Instead of living in the action of ‘how to’, I want to offer that you open yourself up to the feeling of ‘having done’. Rather than spending so much mental energy believing in the ‘how to’, focus your energy on the emotion you will feel when you step into the belief that you are what you are becoming. Instead of waiting for passion to fill you when you are living your purpose, know you are already living your purpose and allow passion to fill you from within.

You are already living your purpose, right here, right now. No matter what you want to change or how you want to grow, what you’re doing right now is exactly what you’re meant to be doing. Allow yourself to shift into the ‘having done’ and who you have to be to become the next version of who you already are and live into your intentional purpose.

WHO DO YOU HAVE TO BE TO FULFILL YOUR PURPOSE?

One of the best distinctions that helps me live a life I want to live is the difference between who I am and what I do.

Who I get to be is different from what I get to do.

Check this out, I have a student who wants me to give him permission to quit his job. First of all, he doesn’t need my permission to do anything. Second, I don’t think he should quit this job he hates. I know this might seem like the opposite of what a life coach would tell their student, but for me, it’s what I always tell my students when they are in a hurry to quit a job, a marriage, or habit they hate.

Your purpose in life is not the job you do—it’s who you are. It’s who you get to be.

I am a coach. I would be a coach if I worked at a gas station, Merrill Lynch, or behind a bar. Who I am and the work I do in the world is not something that’s delivered to me externally. It’s something I take with me wherever I go. This is my deepest joy and sense of freedom.

I want my students to have this joy. I want my students to know that they don’t have to change anything externally to be happy. Their “purpose” is found where they are right now. In whatever life circumstance they find themselves. I told my student who wants to quit his job that he should stay in his job until he does the internal work of finding and creating happiness while still there. Then, from that space, he can decide to make a change or not.

Notice this with yourself. Notice if you are trying to change from the outside in or the inside out. Then remind yourself that purpose isn’t “out there” – it’s “in there.” This distinction will save you so much time.

When you’re looking for your purpose in an important job or career, you have to wait until you find it to start living it. When you recognize that your purpose is who you are being, then you can start doing it now. For instance, my purpose is to be a results-based teacher and coach. I can do that anywhere and with any job. I can do that with my friends, with my girlfriend, in my business, and when I go to the gym. If I lost my job, money, girlfriend, or friends, I could still live my purpose.

Who I need to be to fulfill my purpose:
Courageous.
A big thinker.
A risk taker.
A teacher.
A scholar.
Someone who coaches himself.
Someone who loves himself and others unconditionally.
Someone who fails.
Someone who feels all of his feelings.
Someone who knows there’s nothing more he can do to be good enough.

In this course, you will do this work. You will choose your purpose, and then you will choose who you want to be to fulfill it.

You will choose simply for your wants, your desires, and for fun.

No matter what your job or what your circumstances are, you get to be the person who fulfills their purpose.

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