LESSON 1
THE UNIVERSAL TRUTH

WHERE ARE YOU NOW?

This is the first lesson of the Indomitable Self-Confidence Program.

In this lesson, you are going to identify what you want from this program.

Yes, I know you want to achieve Indomitable Self-Confidence.

Why?

Where they are now in your life and where do you want to be?

I want you to pick one area of your life to focus on and be as specific as possible.

We want to be able to identify what isn’t working and why you think that is.

THOUGHT DOWNLOAD (FREEWRITE) – DO THIS NOW!

Think about the problems in your life that led you to this program and write down everything that comes to mind. Don’t censor yourself! Use paper and a pencil or a pen and keep writing until you fill up the page. You want to write down everything your brain is telling you is a problem in this specific area of your life. This will take 5-10 minutes and will be incredibly valuable to you. Do this NOW. Stop reading and do a Thought Download on your specific problem. Once this is complete, continue with the lesson.

DO NOT PROCEED UNTIL YOU HAVE COMPLETED A THOUGHT DOWNLOAD.

One of the most powerful concepts you can learn on your path to developing Indomitable Self-Confidence is knowing the difference between circumstances (facts) and thoughts (beliefs).

A circumstance is anything that happened in the past and everything that happens in the present. This includes other people; what they said and did in the past and what they say and do in the present. The reason these are circumstances is that they are out of our control, they are facts (things everyone would agree to), and they are objective data (neutral; neither good nor bad). Watch the video for a deeper explanation of circumstances.

A thought is a sentence in your brain that creates a subjective experience from a circumstance. Basically, a thought is what you make a circumstance mean to you. Thoughts are choices and completely within our control. We get to choose what we want to think about any neutral circumstance. A belief is a thought that is repeated so often it feels true, like a fact. When a thought become a belief, we have an emotional reaction. Watch the video for a deeper explanation of thoughts and lesson 2 for more information on beliefs.

What I teach is that all problems are thought problems that can be solved at the level of the mind. With your current situation, let’s separate out the circumstances (facts) from the thinking (beliefs about the facts).

The reason this is so important is because our thinking is what drives our feelings, actions, and ultimately results. Where you are now and where you want to be are both a measurement of results. In order to change the current result (where you are) to a future result that is different (where you want to be), you need to become aware of your thinking and how it determines how you feel and act.

The best way to do that is by putting it into a Model.

Watch the video for an explanation and demonstration of the Model.

RESULTS YOU WANT TO CREATE

Now that you have an Unintentional Model (where you are) and can see how your current thinking is creating your current result, the next step is to create an Intentional Model that will help you get your desired results (where you want to be).

This is all about you. What are your dreams? What are your goals? Why did you decide to take this course?!? What result do you want in your life that you don’t have now? Be as specific as possible. What exactly do you want and WHY DO YOU WANT IT? Even if you don’t believe it’s possible, create as much detail as possible around your desire future result.

You are going to use this result to fill in the Intentional Model.

? What is the specific result you want for your life?
? What would you have to do to get it?
? What would you need to feel to do those things?
? What would you need to keep believing to feel that way?

It is important to understand that you don’t yet believe the Intentional Model. If you did, you would already have this result. This would already be your life.

What is important with this exercise is that you see these two Models side by side and understand what is currently in your mind, creating your emotions and driving your actions, and where they need to be. The space in between these Models is the work you will do (and why having a coach makes this process so much more efficient and effective). At the end of this process, you will be much closer to living your Intentional (desired) Model versus the one you are living in now.

Use the worksheets to complete your Unintentional and Intentional Models.

OBSTACLES & STRATEGIES

At this point, you are probably overwhelmed with the distance between these two Models.

This is normal.

The next step is the process of creating a path between these two Models.

That is what the coaching and course is all about – the next seven (7) lessons are about overcoming each obstacle between where you are and where you want to be.

To start, list everything you can do to make this dream come true. Include things you will have to learn, things you will need to complete, and daily activities you will have to commit to. Simply list every reason you think it won’t work, every reason you think you will fail.

Bring everything up; all the obstacles you think you have to achieving that dream.

Next, for each of these obstacles, come up with strategies. Some are just obstacle thoughts that you need to find alternative thoughts for. Some are actions that need to be planned for and committed to on the calendar. And some of these are simply lies that should be released and let go of to achieve the desired results.

Spend a few hours releasing overwhelm by planning, questioning thoughts and beliefs on the obstacles list, and creating a strategy  for success.

DAILY SELF-STUDY

Every day, do a thought download and 2 Model’s. This will take you 20-30 minutes. The more your practice, the better and faster you will get. In the beginning, take your time and think about your thinking. Fill a page with thoughts, then choose a thought for your Unintentional Model (a thought that is unconscious or driving unwanted actions). Complete an Unintentional Model by filling in the F, A, and R lines. Observe this Model and how it is creating your current results. Now move to the Intentional Model.

WITHOUT CHANGING THE CIRCUMSTANCE, determine how you WANT to feel in order to show up as the best version of yourself (this could be Indomitable Self-Confidence)?

Now fill in the Intentional Model, paying close attention to and focus on the T line – what will you need to think to create the feeling that drives the action that gets you intended results? 

Use the worksheets below to do your Daily Self-Study.

WORKSHEETS

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