Trust, Faith, and Moving Forward
TRUST
Trust is such a misunderstood concept. We think that trust is something that people ‘earn’ or can ‘break’. Neither is true because it’s never other people that we trust.
Trust is something we have for ourselves. Like love, it is not something given, it is something felt. We can DEMONSTRATE love to someone but that doesn’t mean they will feel love. They will only feel love when they think the thoughts that create love in their body. Trust is the same – we can DEMONSTRATE trust when we say we trust someone, but the truth is all we really ‘trust’ is the story we tell ourselves about this other person. When they behave outside the story we tell ourselves about them – we blame them and say they ‘broke our trust’.
The only thing we can trust another human to do is to be a human. That’s it! They can tell us they love us and then not act lovingly. They can tell us they will respect us and then act disrespectful. They can declare all kind of vows and then go break every one of them. Why? Because they are a human being and living through the Universal Truth – they will always behave based on the way they think and feel in that moment, and their brain will ALWAYS justify those actions.
So, where does that leave us?
In a relationship, we can ONLY trust ourselves – and I mean that in two ways.
First, we trust in our own beliefs and principles. Of course, the first step is to determine – consciously – what those beliefs and principles are. Once you do, you trust in those and live through those. Remember, beliefs and principles are choices, not facts. We can choose to believe in anything we want and create any principle to live by that serves us. I am no recommending that you choose beliefs and principles that harm other people and the world around you – jus the opposite. When I teach people on a massive scale, I often hear the response, “Well if everything is neutral and I can just choose to think (believe) what I want, then I can go out there and hurt other people and it’s all good, right?” WRONG. You see, when you hurt other people, you are really only hurting yourself because the beliefs that cause harmful actions are coming from inner suffering. When you are choosing the beliefs that elevate the best version of yourself – who you really are – you aren’t hurting anything and you are spreading your personal flavor of goodness upon the world.
Second, we trust in our ability to handle any and all circumstances (which includes what other people say and do). This is the truth about trust, which is also the root of self-confidence. You see, people think trust is something that is given, earned, broken, or betrayed. This is an illusion because trust isn’t an external thing – we don’t send trust out from us or receive it from other people. It is something we create for ourselves and give to ourselves. Now, we can break our own trust when we do things that go against our beliefs and principles. That doesn’t mean you wallow in self-pity or beat yourself up about it – in fact, the powerful thing about trust is that it is what you cultivate in THOSE TIMES, the WORST TIMES, because it’s all about TRUSTING that you can handle whatever happened, grow from it, and move on.
Trust is internal and always occurs in the moment, RIGHT NOW. You can handle THIS MOMENT, no matter what it is. If someone does something that goes against the story you tell yourself about them – like a wife cheating or a child stealing – you can trust yourself to be able to handle that circumstance, enforce boundaries, learn a valuable lesson about yourself and what you’re capable of, and then move forward into the next amazing part of Life that is being offered to you next.
That is TRUST.
FAITH
Faith is different from trust in that it is projected outward, into the future. It is what we believe about our future, so that we can be certain about uncertainty and know the unknowable.
Faith is what we put into the Law of Cause and Effect and the Universal Truth. We use faith to manifest our deepest desires, knowing that they have come true before they become visible in our lives. As it relates to Alpha relationships, we can put our faith into the people we choose to relate with and know that they will think, feel, and behave from their inner Goodness and Love. It doesn’t always make it so, but when we do this it creates a strong connection with that person and an amazing relationship through our cognition, belief, and FAITH.
Whereas trust is what is happening now, faith is what is happening in the future. Remember, trust is about being able to handle whatever the circumstance is that is being presented in the moment. Faith, on the other hand, is knowing that what comes next is happening FOR you (not TO you) and that the future is always presenting you with what you need to grow and evolve. In relationships, that means that faith opens you up for knowing that the best is yet to come (each day will be better than the previous), even if that means things aren’t going the way you intended them. Often, the way we intend things are not the way we will receive them. The present moment, as it’s offered to us, is always exactly what we need to develop TRUST in ourselves and have FAITH in our future.
Remember the segment on commitment? When we are so committed to an outcome in our relationships, we can lose sight of the Truth – that what is happening is happening FOR us and we want to pay attention to the moment, not the outcome that our brain is telling us we aren’t getting.
I often use infidelity or betrayal in relationships as an example. When we are in a romantic relationship that has an instance of infidelity from the other person (or a platonic relationship in which we feel betrayed by the other person), it takes a practiced and powerful FAITH to know that this is happening FOR us. It’s not that the other person is a bad woman or horrible friend. They are dealing with their own inner demons of cognition. Nor is it that we did something wrong and are being punished. That thinking comes from our own inner demons of cognition. All Beta thoughts. What is really occurring is that the Goodness of the Universe of providing you with a message. It’s time to either create some boundaries or enforce the boundaries you created and then move on into the future, knowing with FAITH that the Eternal Goodness of the Universe has your back (like it ALWAYS DOES).
MOVING FORWARD
THE ELEVATED ALPHA SOCIETY SPARTAN ACADEMY FOR THE DEVELOPMENT OF COGNITIVE MASTERY
Now that you’ve completed all the segments of the course (assuming that this is the final segment that you’ve entered of the course), I want to offer you a few ideas for moving forward.
First, I want to offer that you repeat the course. There is no order for which you go through this course. The Alpha Relationships Course is designed to allow you to work through it in any order you choose. That being said, the segment on the Universal Truth provides the foundation of the philosophy and methodology that I use to teach and train my students. Spend some time with that concept and make sure you really understand it so you can start to apply it in all areas of your life. Once you have that, go through the other segments a second time and do all the worksheets from each segment. The worksheets are designed to evolve as you evolve, which means that as you change and grow, you will have different answers to the questions that are on the worksheets. The first time you go through the course will take you to the next level, the second time you go through the course will take you even further.
Next, consider a coaching call with me to help answer any questions you might have about the course, the concepts, or any specific issue that is going on in your life. You can find a link to book a coaching call on the welcome page. The call is 45-minutes and what we cover in that time can make the world of difference. The most common testimonial I receive is “one month of cognitive coaching has had more an effect in my life than a years (or years!) of therapy”. This is true due to the nature of coaching vs. therapy. As a student of the Alpha Relationships Course, you have access to coaching at a discount over students that just sign-up for a single one-on-one coaching session – USE THAT TO YOUR ADVANTAGE!
Finally, there is the Alpha Academy. The Academy is a scholastic program for teaching you the vast information and skills that is the philosophy and application of Cognitive Mastery and Emotional Ownership. There are no greater skills you can learn as a human than these two – and I find it appalling and shameful that they are not taught to us as children. However, it is never too late to learn these skills as an adult and now other skill will take you as far or as fast in achieving your life-goals than Cognitive Mastery and Emotional Ownership. The details of this program are outlined in the video above and on the Alpha Academy website, located here.
OPTIONS FOR CONTINUED SELF MASTERY:
The Elevated Alpha Society Spartan Academy For The Development Of Cognitive Mastery
One-on-One Coaching
Another specialized home-study course (Indomitable Self-Confidence or How To Live Your Purpose or How To Stop Buffering)
WORKSHEETS
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